So my aunt recommended this book to me and my mom bought it for me. Thank you to you both. This book is wonderful. If you have gone through a miscarriage, stillbirth, or lost an infant this is a must read. I recommend reading it with a box of tissues though. I do want to let you know that it is written by a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. Most of my readers are members of the same church that I belong to, but there are some that read this that are not, so here is the heads up. It is a wonderful insight into what happens to these precious spirits that are only with us for such a short time. Shortly after losing our baby, my dad told me that he strongly felt that this baby had such a strong spirit that it only needed to gain a body. He said that I should feel honored that I was chosen to be the one to carry such a special spirit, if even for such a short time.
In this book, there is a part where she writes of something Joseph Smith wrote of children who die in infancy. "The Lord takes many away, even in infancy, that they may escape the envy of man, and the sorrows and evils of this present world; they were too pure, too lovely, to live on earth; therefore, if rightly considered, instead of mourning we have reason to rejoice as they are delivered from evil, and we shall soon have them again." -History of the Church 4:553
It is a great comfort to have the knowledge that I will someday hold my baby. I still hurt and grieve, but I know that with time that I will feel better. I will always hold a special place in my heart for my baby.
5 comments:
Heather, my heart hurts for you.I am so very sorry this happened.Your post is so sweet and so true, thank goodness for the gospel to give us something to look forward to. I don't know if you heard that Ben's sister Jessicca lost her baby at 18weeks just recently, and I just wanted to thank you for the book recommendation.. I am sure this is just what she needs. My prayers are with you.. take care.
Well, I better never read that book. Just reading your post made me tear up! What a tough thing to go through. I hope that pray that you'll continue to heal.
Hi Heather, this is Janna's friend Andrea. I was very saddened by the news that you had lost your baby. I too lost a baby last year at 38 weeks so I know somewhat what you are going through right now. I say somewhat because every experience is different.
I was given that book from my mother-in-law right after my baby died but I couldn't read it until about ten months later. I was glad that I waited a little to read it because I think it helped me more since some time had past. I loved it. It is the best, and probably only, book to read after a miscarriage or stillbirth. I also love what Joseph Smith and other prophets say. I have read that quote you wrote so many times because it is so comforting.
We also feel that our baby was too pure to live on this earth. He didn't need to go through any earthly trials, he only needed a body. It was extremely hard to deal with losing him only two weeks before he was due. Now over a year later, I can say that the grief and pain does become less painful. I hope it doesn't ever completely go away, it's how I keep a hold of my son, so to speak, but I have learned and grown from this experience and now have a precious boy in heaven to encourage our family to do right.
I know that Heavenly Father will help you through this trial if you stay close to him. We are so blessed to have the knowledge of where our babies are and that we will be reunited with them.
Take care,
Andrea
That was a book I think the hospital gave to me when our daughter was still born. There is another read, "When Hello Means Goodbye" that was good too. Also I believe it was Susan Easton Black who had lost a child and written some poems that are comforting. I spent a lot of time researching the prophets like Joseph Fielding Smith and what they had to say. Through my reading, praying, and several blessings I learned a lot of things because the Spirit was able to teach me. It wasn't easy. I was a lot like you only we went to the hospital in the morning of delivery and the doctors couldn't find a heartbeat. They started askng me what I had done the night before and if I had felt anything strange because surely I must have felt something. So when I read your blog it brought back those memories. They aren't far away. But I have other memories also and I know I have promises that are mine. So do you.
You are in my thoughts and prayers, and I know many others are praying for you also.
That quote is beautiful. We are sure thinking of you all, but giving you space...I hope that is the right thing to do. We love you!
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